What is a Life Coach?
A Life Coach looks at a person’s potential rather than their performance. The Coach views a person as an acorn who has all the potential to grow as long as all the right conditions are provided for that growth. Seldom are people given a customized and optimum environment for this explosive development to occur.
Conventional human development processes such as our upbringing, education, and relationships often cause our ultimate potential to remain untapped by focusing us on our weaknesses, not our strengths. However, no other development process influences and changes behaviors as effectively as life coaching. Coaching influences both the conscious and subconscious levels of the personality. Most of what we do on a day-to-day basis is generated unconsciously, and it is impossible to manage and improve upon something we ourselves are not aware of.
Great Coaches see themselves as cultivators of hidden human potential. This approach enables a person to connect to deeper subconscious resources that they were previously unaware of. It is all based on the principle that our potential knows no limits! The skilled Coach teams with the client in creating environments for optimum growth.
What does the Life Coaching process look like?
Life coaching addresses the performance gap; the difference between what a person knows, and what they do. If we are to create lasting improvements in our performance, as opposed to just putting a veneer over the issue at hand, we must address performance issues at a deeper internal level.
The coaching process has 3 underlying objectives:
1. To create greater awareness
2. Develop increased responsibility
3. Develop greater accountability
All three bring greater empowerment and resourcefulness to the individual. They create lasting change by adopting a learning approach that operates from the inside out, as opposed to the outside in. Life coaching recognizes that our potential cannot be found somewhere outside of us, it can only be discovered within us.
The coaching relationship is a designed alliance. The relationship is referred to as designed because it is customized to meet the exclusive needs of each client. It is an alliance because there is a responsibility placed on both Coach and client for the design of the relationship, and for making it work. Coaches don’t fix people or change their lives, the coaching process does. Professional Coaches work in a partnership alongside clients to design a relationship that meets their needs. Therefore, the client learns at the onset that they are in control of both the relationship, and achieving the desired changes in their life.
Following the initial session, clients are immediately aware that they are not buying some off the shelf self-help process; they’re committing themselves to an ongoing relationship.
Who is Life Coaching for?
1. Those committed to delayed gratification
A teacher or consultant is more than capable of giving you THE ANSWER. Yet, consider how well “the answers” you learned in school served you in achieving your upmost best in life?
2. Those willing to interrogate reality.
Are you willing to place the reality of your life on the witness stand and let it be questioned under oath? Many of us would rather be told what to do then be stretched in the process of creating a new idea or vision. This critical process is facilitated via a deeper level of interrogative questioning.
3. Those willing to learn to state their goals in clear and measurable ACTION STEPS.
Accountability is a prerequisite for candidates of life coaching. The power to formulate ideas and follow through is within the client, not the Coach.
4. Motivated individuals who are committed to ratcheting their life up to the next level.
If you are in need of counseling or therapy life coaching should be placed on hold so you can maximize its full benefits.
If you are a lazy individual who lacks motivation and are looking for someone else to get you to your destiny, life coaching is not for you.
5. People who are betting on themselves.
Are you betting on yourself? All in, full on and all skin in the game? You can’t ask a Coach to bet on you if you have yet to bet on yourself. Don’t begin the life coaching process if you are only willing to place one foot in the plane and demand the other one remains on the ground.
6. People who are ready for Putting It All Together (PIAT).
An experienced Life Coach can help you in this process, but if you do not take responsibility for PIAT someone else will do it for you. Often it will be in a one-size-fits-all manner that will fail to maximize the potential of your unique blueprint.
7. A person of potential who is willing to embrace new ideas.
Our conscious mind has been programmed since the womb. We have good and bad programming. All ideas that we receive consciously go into our subconscious and profoundly impact our physical realm. As a result, most people have a difficult time re-patterning their mind to receive a new idea. This is why most diets fail, financial plans crash and burn, and relationships can be so unfulfilling.
It is through training the subconscious to embrace new thought patterns that an individual can overcome the barriers that keep them from experiencing true freedom.
8. Those willing to, “give up to go up”.
Life coaching is a series of choices made by the client. There are many sacrifices that come as a result of rising up to your true destiny and purpose. There are times that the client has to choose who, or what, they are going to loose in order to move forward.
9. Those driven by passion connected to purpose.
Passion not connected to purpose leads to fads and ADD vision. A Life Coach asks targeted questions to unveil the client’s deep-seated passions; ones that will take them the distance.
10. The person committed to significance.
There are four levels of human existence:
3) Success, and
Those seeking coaching from LCI are unwilling to stop until they reach a life of significance. The client defines via SIPQ what attaining significance means for them. Once they achieve it, they step it up and seek greater opportunities to unlock their potential.
11. People focused on maximizing their strengths and minimizing their weaknesses.
Coaching focuses on strengths, and recognizes that a disproportionate amount of energy put towards weaknesses only leads to frustration and failure.
12. People who see no other option but to change.
Life coaching is a perfect fit for individuals in pain, frustration or failure who no longer consider it an acceptable option for existence.